5 tips to deal with low self-esteem



Dealing with having chronic pain and illness is tough enough but and what happens with low self-esteem, and life is downright difficult. Feeling self-conscious all the time makes it easy to not like yourself . Which in turns becomes low self-esteem.  I have suffered from self-esteem issues in the past and its even hard now not to let life get in the way.

Self-esteem is your self-worth and dealing with constant pain and illness can take the way you feel about yourself and make it less than how you should really feel. In everyone’s life, there are moments of low self-worthiness, usually rooted in other feelings such as shyness, social awkwardness, insecurity, or uncertainty. There are things that you can do to help with your low self-esteem and increase your self-confidence.   Through various forms of self-assessment and self-care, you can build up a sense of appreciation for who you are as a person and an important member of your family and your community at large. And learning to accept the fact of having chronic pain and illnesses, your self-worth will grow.

Assess your feelings

The first step in dealing with raising your self-esteem is understanding the source. Note when certain situations make you feel more confident or less confident than others. Is it when you enter into new situations, are assigned new projects, or are in social situations where you don’t know anyone? Or is it in interactions with people who you already know, such as friends, family, peers, or co-workers? Once you have more awareness of the cause, you can take steps to remedy it. For example, if you experience easily hurt feelings too often from people you know well, you can decide to find new sources of emotional support, or seek relationship counseling. One way of

Develop self-awareness of who you are as a person.

Write down three positive things about yourself each day or week, or list your strengths, your achievements, and things that you admire about yourself. Reading and re-reading these notes will help to remind you that you are important to yourself and to others.

  • Ask for feedback. Discuss your strengths and weaknesses with trusted friends, family, or co-workers and ask them for their assessment and suggestions.
  • Assess your personal likes and dislikes. This will help you understand who you are and what you stand for.

Be compassionate with yourself.

When you are coping with low self-esteem, it is easy to blame yourself, even for things that are out of your control. Focusing negatively on something you’ve said or done, being unhappy with the way you look, or putting yourself down with phrases like “I can never follow through” or “I’m a failure” affects your mental health. Recognize negative, intrusive, self-blaming, or self-defeating thoughts and replace them with kindness, understanding, and supportive thinking for yourself

Practice self-care.

Part of successfully coping with low self-esteem involves feeling healthy. In addition to getting enough exercise, eating healthy food, and sleeping adequately, it is also important to manage your stress levels and engage in techniques that encourage self-affirmation.

  • Take alone time to recharge. Doing fun activities on your own clears your mind and improves your quality of life.
  • Seek activities that you enjoy. Whether this is going to the movies, seeing an art museum, or going to a concert with friends, making time for fun outings can go a long way to improving your negative feelings about yourself.

Seek therapeutic treatment.

Often, self-esteem issues are deeply rooted and have their origins in traumatic life experiences. If this is the case, consider enlisting professional therapeutic help via both group therapy or individual cognitive behavioral therapy.

  • To find a therapist or counselor, you can ask your primary care physician or health insurance for a referral. You can also search in online directories such as www.goodtherapy.org for licensed clinical social workers and therapists who can help you navigate what you are feeling.
  • Group therapy has many benefits including helping to build a diverse support network or acting as a sounding board. Your physician can refer you to a group, or you can also check with local hospitals and medical centers who frequently host groups


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