Suffering from chronic pain, you get a lot of advice as to what to do and how to deal with the pain. But no one ever talks about the things that you shouldn’t be doing. Living with chronic pain, there are many things that you shouldn’t do. In this post, we will talk about five things you shouldn’t do when in chronic pain.
Making Excuses For The Pain or For You
The first thing that people suffering from chronic pain should never do is, make excuses for the pain or for yourself. Meaning that when your friends invite you out for dinner, and you have been in bed all day. You know that you can’t make it and instead of saying that you had a bad day, you make up some excuse about having to clean your house or a hang nail that is out of control.
Be honest with people about your disease or pain. I believe that most of us lie is we are afraid of what people will think of us. But we shouldn’t care about that. What we need to care about is we are taking care of ourselves and if we have a bad day or two, allowing ourselves to be honest and not ashamed that we have to live with pain or a disease.
I know it is easier said than done. So start with baby steps. Start to talk about the pain that you live with or bring up what it is exactly like having your disease. Let people into that side of your life and the more you talk about it, the more they will start to understand. The more that they understand, the easier it will be to telling them the truth.
Trying To “Work” Through The Pain
When we are on a roll and getting things done, sometimes we don’t want to stop for the pain or the disease. We find that if continuing with what we are doing, we easily forget what our body needs to come first and we need to take care of it properly. Pushing through, or working through the pain isn’t the best choice for us. What if there is a symptom that is new and we are ignoring it?
Instead of working through the pain, we need to be listening to our body and what it is telling us. We are the only true spokesperson for our body so we need to be in tuned to it. That way we can be honest with the doctors and they can make the proper decisions about our healthcare treatment. Listening to our body, we may even notice some new symptoms, which can be useful to the doctor. Or we may not feel a symptom anymore, which may be a sign of healing, and the doctor should be notified about this.Either way, we need to be paying attention to our bodies and following exactly what it is saying.
Not Being Honest With How Much Pain You Are In
This goes along with the one above. Living in constant pain, I have the tendency to tell myself that I am really not in that much pain as I think I am. I tell myself that it’s all in my head and I just need to forget about it. But just like working through the pain, we then have the likelihood to not being honest and possibly hurting ourselves more. We need to be able, to be open with ourselves and with others as to how much pain we are in.
We think that others will judge us or think poorly of us if we do tell the truth. I know that often I feel like I am complaining and being whiny about the amount of pain that I am in. When in truth, it is very helpful to other to know what to expect from us. And if anyone is going to be judging us with what we live with day in and day out, then do those people really deserve to be in our lives? I don’t think so. I think we need to surround ourselves with people who respect our illnesses or pain and know that what we live with, we deserve the courtesy of that esteem.
Self Medicating, Is Smart To Do?
Many times, we think that we know our body and illness better than most people, especially our doctors. That being said, one of the most important things that we should not do is self-medicate. I know this is really hard to do but we need to listen to the doctor and follow the instructions on every one of our pill bottles.
I have been guilty of this, myself. I often think to myself “just this once” or “I know how I feel” and either take more than I should or even at times taken less than I should. Thinking that we understand our bodies and know what is best for it. When in fact, we do know our bodies the best, but we don’t know medications like a doctor or a pharmacist does. We need to respect their opinion and know that there is a reason we are on the pill, dosage, or whatever. I can’t stress enough just how important this one is to follow.
Not Giving Your Doctor All The Infomation
Do you ever think that you are going to be 100% honest with your doctor and then you get into that room, you know the one that makes you sweat and brings on anxiety? That room where you are supposed to trust your doctor all the way and know that he/she will take good care of you. But once you get into that room, you forget what you are going to say. Or you get nervous and afraid that you are wasting everyone’s time.
When in reality, this is supposed to be a room of comfort and security. You should feel that you can tell your doctor everything, no matter how big or little it is. It doesn’t matter if you think the information is so small and doesn’t play a part in your health, you need to be telling your doctor. It doesn’t matter if the information happened 10 years ago, you still need to be telling your doctor.
The more pieces of the puzzle, that being you, that the doctor has, the better the care you will receive. To make the whole puzzle, the doctor needs every little piece that is out there. From when was your last tetanus shot to how many surgeries have you had are all important. Do try to give as much information about each piece as you can. If you are like me and dates don’t stay with you, write everything down and carry it all in a folder. There will be a PDF coming out soon in the resource library that will be a form that you can write down all your information and take that with you to the doctor’s appointment. Check back frequently to get a copy of that.
These are the five important things not to do when you suffer from chronic pain or illnesses. Each and everyone plays an important role in your health care puzzle. Never underestimate the amount of pain you are in and don’t be afraid to share that with friends and family. Take care of yourself and listen to your body. Be careful not to over-medicate or under-medicate yourself. And be honest with your doctor about all the other pieces that go to the library. All of these are very important in playing the part in your life. Make sure to take each one seriously and equally. After all, you have been given just one body for this life. Try to take care of it the best you can.